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Parent Fun

When I used to picture myself at the age of 21, I didn’t see much of what my life is actually like. I pictured more friends, college, parties, and fun.

My life, is well the life of a mom. I cook, clean, garden, and shower when I can; that sort of thing. I have mom fun. Like finding new movies to watch on Netflix with my four year old and making cooing sounds with my 2.5 month old.

My other half and I occasionally have “parent fun”. Which consists of a couple hours to ourselves or with friends, because we are only 21 and are still kids at heart. Every parent needs that time. If not, well you’re going to be boring and your relationship might go down the drain.

Parents need to have time together because without you two, your relationship, and your love; your beautiful children probably wouldn’t exist. So spend the alone or going out time to remember why you fell in love. Fall in love with your partner all over again.

I never knew it was possible to fall in love with someone multiple times, over and over again. Usually it’s the little things, the things that tend to go unnoticed. Cherish those moments.

We had some parent fun (for a few hours) and went to the fair. It wasn’t much but it was fun to feel 21 again. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the week that we forget we are still young and can still have fun (besides sleeping in).

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Pinterest Wanna-Be

I’m one of those people that absolutely love Pinterest. I love the idea of it, the whole 9 yards.

BUT.. I’m a “wanna-be”. I’ve pinned so many things, I don’t even remember pinning but at the time I found them amazing and SO cool.

I’ve pinned crafty things for the kids, awesome remodeling ideas, diy’s for the WHOLE house, super cute outfits, budgeting money, and some super tasty recipes.

Normal right?! Yet, I’ve maybe put a few of those saved pins to good use. A few yummy recipes and some hair ideas to bring to my hairdresser. As I sit here, while my daughter takes a nap. I wonder why on earth do I pin all these “super cool things” if I never put them to good use??

I personally think it’s because I want to be that totally equipped mom that looks like she totally has her shit together. The one that can do-it-all and still look fabulous. But in all reality, I’m not.

Like today, I did laundry and the dishes. Felt like a damn super-mom. I haven’t even put on pants today, why? Because NOBODY cares what I look like in my own home. If I’m home, I’m gonna be a damn bum. No doubt about it.

I’ve come to the realization that I’m not going to be that mom that looks like she has her shit together, because I’m still processing the idea that I’m a freaking mom to two beautiful babies.

Mom-ing doesn’t come with a manual. There’s no right or wrong way to parent, there’s your own way.

So if I want to sit home without pants, I’m gonna.

If I want to feed my four year old chicken nuggets or frozen pizza, it’s gonna happen.

I’m definitely not a super mom that diy’s everything and looks 100% anywhere I go.

Damn Pinterest. You make everything look SO EASY.


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Mom & School Life

Life with a newborn and a four year old is anything but boring. Add online schooling and housework and it’s a little hectic. But I’d rather being getting daily tasks done than feeling like I didn’t get any closer to my life goals at the end of the day.

Goals keep us motivated and also that satisfied accomplished feeling when you get something done you’ve always wanted to. Or just being able to sneak in a shower once the baby is sleeping and my son is either content or sleeping as well. Showering has become a task too, along with housework and schooling.

Our little girl is definitely a boob baby and loves to nurse! (no complaints) I’m just not used to this because my son had to be bottle fed. Breastfeeding is an experience on its own. Sometimes you cry and other times you smile, sometimes the two combine and you find yourself so happy you’re crying. Gotta love those amazing hormones. (LOL)

Plexus has kept me a little more sane I think. It’s something to look forward to drinking in the morning and feeling better throughout the day. Some people look forward to their morning coffee or tea, I look forward to drinking my Plexus Slim.

School has been going as good as it gets. It’s stressful, even doing it from your own living room. But the thought of finishing definitely keeps me motivated. Also, the thought of getting my degree completed and finding a job that I will actually enjoy on a day to day basis.

Well, that’s what’s going on in my life.

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Why are ya staring at my belly?

Well, as you know I’m pregnant. Some of you know how much weight I’ve gained, others have no idea. Nearing the end of this journey of baby number two, I feel round and uncomfortable. And those that stare at you like you just killed someone, do not make me feel anymore comfortable or less round.

It’s like no matter how old you look, what you wear, and where you are; people stare at your damn belly. Like, oh sorry. Let me cover this basketball sized belly of mine so you can stare at someone else that doesn’t look “normal.”

Why do they stare? It’s not just females either, men do the same thing. Yeah, my boobs are three times the size they used to be but so isn’t this round belly underneath them.

I guess I just don’t get it. I don’t mind the people that smile after because it feels like they’re smile is a congratulations without words. That makes me smile back and feel better about waddling through the isles of a grocery store.

I realize I look young but they also just assume I’m really young too. I grew up with my dad always telling me, “If you assume something, you’re making an ass out of you and me.” Or whatever you’re assuming because typically you have not a clue about something and you’re just throwing a random idea out there. No facts, no knowledge.

You’re simply just an ass for staring at my pregnant belly and ASSuming too many false things. Sorry my life isn’t “picture perfect” but I can guarantee neither is the grouchy looking woman that’s staring at me in isle 8 of Wal-Mart.

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“Perfect” Parent

Being 21 with a four year old boy and a little girl on the way, I’m no where near being an experienced mother. Especially to a teenager. But from experience and watching my sister being raised, I know how I felt being the daughter and not the parent.

I know I was an easier child than I was a teenager. Not only is being a teenager such an emotional rollercoaster but no one is given directions on how to tackle life. I had wished I had more freedom. I wished I had the life of all the other “perfect” girls in high school.

Once I gained all that freedom, it hit me like a rock. The freedom all came at once and I was a rebellious, sheltered teen previous to that. I went crazy, to say the least. All the freedom I had wanted was right in front of me and after a while, it became old. I remember wishing I had my old sheltered life back. Not completely but just bits and pieces.

For those of you raising daughters, don’t be a complete pusher or have no rules at all. Even though they act like they want tons of freedom, everyone still needs stability and they need to feel loved. Parenting isn’t easy. There isn’t a manual on how to raise a child, how to be the perfect parent, or how to stop your child from hating you.

You can’t be the perfect parent, some people need that friendly reminder.

Your child may hate you a time or two but that’s rather normal. You don’t always get along with someone you spend months and/or even years with. Random arguments and even scream matches are normal too.

Just know, if your child isn’t happy with you than you are in fact doing something right. If you don’t want to pull your hair out, then you might need to get a hold of Ellen and tell her about the most perfect child.

“Parenting is a lot like the bar scene. Everyone’s yelling, everything’s sticky, it’s the same music over and over again and someone occasionally pukes.”

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Busy Busy Busy

To say the least, I’ve been super busy lately.

We’ve had baby appointments every two weeks, soon to be once a week. I was 35 weeks yesterday. It’s gone by so quick looking back but if you asked me today, I’d say today is dragging.

My son is wrapping up his last couple of weeks at nursery school, he’s excited about summer break and very anxious for his baby sister to arrive. We talk a lot about her arrival and I keep explaining that she’s not going to just “fall out” of me. Children’s minds are so innocent, we can’t help but giggle about it. We also talk a lot about him starting Pre-K this coming fall, he calls it his “big boy” school.

Home life has consisted of baby prepping, putting my swollen ankles up, and most recently homework. Our mini home renovation is all completed so we have three bedrooms instead of the two we had. The baby’s room is almost all set and we have plenty of stuff for our little peanut.

I recently discovered my swollen ankles last week or the week before. Then even more recently discovered, it’s not only my ankles that are starting to swell as I near the end of this pregnancy.

To wrap up my busy life, my two online summer classes started yesterday. Yes, I did inform them that I’m super pregnant and could totally pop at anytime. I didn’t use those exact words but the point was made. The classes shouldn’t be too stressful. I’ve started to work on both of them a little each day and hopefully get ahead a little before the baby comes. That way if I fall behind I technically won’t be behind.

I hope you enjoyed reading how my life has been the past couple of weeks.

Feel free to share your busy schedules!